I’ve spent a lot of time talking about the sensible things: lawyer selection, parenting agreements, etc. And it is good to be prepared and gather information when in the midst of a divorce.
However, I would be remiss if I didn’t bring up emotional support. Divorce is one of the most emotionally taxing things I’ve ever been through. It feels like it will never end, but it does. And while you’re slogging through the muck of the divorce, make sure you have your support system in place. My friends kept me from sinking completely into despair. They put me back together like a broken doll when I thought I couldn’t take it anymore.
My therapist was another big piece of my support system. She gave me the tools to protect myself emotionally before the separation, and throughout the separation and divorce process. The tools I learned from therapy are ones I will continue to use far into the future.
Having a hobby was, and still is, a huge part of the healing process. I poured out so much of my pain and grief into redoing my house. The house I lived in with him. I turned it into mine, and that work healed a part of me I never thought could be fixed.
Be kind to yourself, lean into your friends, family, hobbies. Anything that softens the blows that can be inflicted by a divorce. Things will get easier, and you will get to a place where you can begin again.
Heather
There have been so many times since my divorce, that I’ve said to myself “I wish I had done things differently….if only I’d known.” I can’t turn back the clock, but I can teach you these valuable things I’ve learned. I hope it will spare you the frustrations and sadness I’ve experienced.
My name is Heather. I’m a divorced mother of four who successfully divorced a narcissist. I’m here to help you by sharing all the little things I learned along the way. I look forward to being your guide with a little bit og humor and ALOT of honesty. Welcome.
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